Strange accidents v/s uninjured driver

I have heard of two car accidents recently for the first time in my life which were strange but true. I was amazed and was searching for the clue. The accident in which the driver is hardly injured, I mean not even a scratch. But the person sitting beside the driver/in the front seat gets injuries like anything, arm broken, forehead injury, scratches all over. How could this just happen??

Last year on jan 8th, saturday, my husband was on his way back to home from his office with a sweet thought that my wife will be back from her mom’s place tomorrow, after 3 months post delivery with our new guest, a lil’ baby boy. He was returning back with one of his friends who was driving the car and my husband sat on the front seat. Suddenly in a stiff turning, his friend lost control over the speed and the car got hit with the road divider and tumbled over twice. By god’s grace, both of them were alive. But alas, my husband’s left arm was broken into three pieces. And on the other hand, his friend, the driver was uninjured. Isn’t it surprising ?? We were all astonished and were speechless i.e. couldn’t think of what had happened. There are a lot of reasons, may be it was a mix of drink and drive, may be intentional, or may be just an accident !!

Let me share another incident which happened today morning with one of an office colleague of my husband. He is a RJ i.e. radio jockey in one of the leading radio stations, RED FM. He is a full-time jockey and is dedicated. Like everyday, today also the office driver went to pick him up from his place. Without jacket in a chilly morning, he told the driver to drive slowly and they were @20-40 kmph. At a few kilometers away from the office, suddenly the driver got a kind of stress attack and his body became stiff. He left the car with the accelerator ON @80-100 kmph all in a while and was out of sense. The RJ in this situation, instead of a blank mind thought of pressing the hand brake but then it had already hit a tree on the left of the road and the car turned 360 degree round. The RJ’s left arm was broken into two pieces and his forehead got injured. Whats the surprise, it’s an accident !! No, the surprise is, inspite of such a dreadful accident, the driver was uninjured, yes… with not even a single scratch on his body.

The earlier case ended up with a long ”PLATED” surgery (a steel plate was inserted inside the arm for life long support) of 8 hours and the later case will be operated in a same way tomorrow.

Huh….m still in shock and I wonder…how this could happen – a severe accident with an uninjured driver.

Habits – Bad to live with !!

Have you ever changed a habit in the past ??

Habits are the blueprints that run our lives. Habit creates the urge to control each and every aspect of life. Our brain create these blueprints automatically to run our day to day tasks, so that we don’t have to pay attention on them. Actually, bad habits are easily developed by us which are hard to get out of and on the other hand, good habits are difficult to develop but are easy to deal with. Habit is defined as unconsious pattern of behaviour or work established through continous repetition that go deep into our life creating a strong root and yes, is difficult to remove. We need to spend more time in planning, for a change. Simply using will-power will be difficult for us to get permanent results. In this article we will discuss about the ways to get ourself out of some bad habits and replace them with good ones that will improve our life.

Bad habits are of different kinds like it can be addiction to liquor, smoke, wasting time, watching TV (by neglecting other works), interferance in a talk, being lazy, being late and many more.

The first step to change a habit is its awareness and its analysis. You should be aware of what you are doing because awareness is beneficial for breaking habits. To change any habit you should analyse why you have given it so much priority. The reason any habit exists is because it gives us positive support at some level. If you are creating a new habit, you must consider its impact on the existing ones. So, the process of changing habit begins when you start doing something regularly which you want to. Take time to analyse how its modifications will impact other aspects of your life.

The second step is making a strong decision and a good strategy. Most people after going through step one, directly jump into action overlapping this step as a result of which they fail and believe that it is because of not enough will-power. Will-power can be a good instrument in changing a habit but it can’t neutralize the poor concept. Sometimes we decide to change a habit and sometimes we don’t. But once we decide, we get a clear vision. The strategy should comprehend the depth of the habit, we wish to change. Some are easy and some may take hours of perfect planning.

The third step is a proper commitment to change. While making a commitment, their should be an emotional bond involved, so that it will be touchy to get started. Make a proper plan of action. And now, its time to introduce new behaviours.

Step four is ACTION. This step requires more commitment and energy because its where you do it. Habits are there with us every minute and every second, even when we are not thinking about them. You just have to stick to the plan you have made and keep moving on…..!! Occasional action will not work, so consistency is critical. Make it easy by thinking this is for one hour or one day rather than thinking about all the days you will have to be different.

The  last and most important step is its maintainance and never ever give up formula. Maintainance is a long ongoing process. The action must be followed by constant attentiveness and a strong plan to check with those temptations that can draw you back into the old bad habit. Imagine yourself with the new habit, imagine that its easy and its adding values to your life and also keeping you healthy. If things seem tough, try doing prayer and meditation. Both help people to get through difficult period in their lives. Ask your friends and family members to support you on your way of changing. Celebrate achieving your goals, but don’t relax for long. Develop a mental and behavioural coping strategy menu which will take you through the times when your feet begin to slip.